I am not a romantic. I am a realist. I love function, utility, and stalwart perseverance. If someone sends me flowers it’s tremendous and I love their beauty. Yet I also worry about their quick fade and soon death of the blooms, and that makes me sad. I’d rather have a gift certificate to Amazon, thanks.
I’m saying this to show that not all girls universally desire a romantic groom to come sweeping in on a white horse to rescue them. Not every woman is a romantic.
Ladies, don’t buy into the current attitude that because all women want a romantic groom, that we envision Jesus as that romantic groom. The romantic Jesus-boyfriend complex is an unfortunate trend that in fact diminishes the august majesty of our King. He is also Savior, Redeemer, Priest, Father, Friend, Healer, Provider, and a host of other facets to His personality that are the complete God-man whom we worship. He is not our boyfriend.
Jesus is not a Prince Charming jousting for a lady fair’s attention. Jesus is not Prince Charming trying to win a fair maiden’s attention. He is GOD! He doesn’t woo. He doesn’t plead. He doesn’t leave small favors on our doorstep so we would finally fall, smitten, at His feet. He is GOD! He decides whose name will go in His lamb’s Book of Life. He decided that before we were even formed. Then he makes it happen.
Now the main point in what has been said is this: we have such a high priest, who has taken His seat at the right hand of the throne of the Majesty in the heavens, (Hebrews 8:1)
And He is the radiance of His glory and the exact representation of His nature, and upholds all things by the word of His power When He had made purification of sins, He sat down at the right hand of the Majesty on high, having become as much better than the angels, as He has inherited a more excellent name than they. (Hebrews 1:3-4)
“Yours, O LORD, is the greatness and the power and the glory and the victory and the majesty, indeed everything that is in the heavens and the earth; Yours is the dominion, O LORD, and You exalt Yourself as head over all. (1 Chronicles 29:11)
Does that sound like a man who is supposed to woo his woman and fall head over heels, weaving a daisy chain together to bestow with a kiss? No.
Bless the LORD, O my soul! O LORD my God, You are very great; You are clothed with splendor and majesty, (Psalm 104:1)
And yet we women are subjected to titles like this, depicting our majestic God as as a foppish suitor. This terrible book was actually written, actually published and is actually on sale:
The Wild Romancer: Uncovering the Romance Jesus Longs to Lavish on You, by Brenda Cobb Murphy.
Jesus longs for something? This would indicate an impotence that does not exist. It evokes a weak man who wishes, hopes, tries, but does not accomplish. But Jesus accomplished it all. He defeated death by the power of His sinless will! Yet these kind of titles are all too common. This theme is all too frequent in “women’s studies”. One ‘teacher’ urges women to “make Jesus the supreme romance of your life“, if we would “only let Him.” Ann Voskamp says that we “make love to God.” Sarah Young carries this erotic-romantic theme forward in her book, Jesus Calling. That’s idolatry, projecting our own emotions onto Jesus and worshiping the image we have created.
He did not come to woo us gently to His heart. He came to shed His blood so as to exhaust God’s wrath for His elect’s sin. Even the concept of wooing toward salvation is foreign to the Bible. No one seeks for God, no not one. (Romans 3:10-11). We women are not wandering romantics looking for our Prince Charming, who whispers sweet nothings into our ear and satisfies the need for glamour and mystique in our love lives as we finally, sweetly succumb. He is the avenging Savior ransoming us from sin’s bondage in His inestimable timing. Sometimes salvation is hard, messy, and initially unwanted.
It is the romanticizing of Jesus that is one of the ways we remake God into our own image. This is idolatry. We have a human desire or need, and we make God into an image that fills that need.
Isaiah 44:15 & 17 say of idolatry,
Then it becomes fuel for a man. He takes a part of it and warms himself; he kindles a fire and bakes bread. Also he makes a god and worships it; he makes it an idol and falls down before it.
From the rest he makes a god, his idol; he bows down to it and worships. He prays to it and says, “Save me! You are my god!”
The romantic whispery Jesus is the false God some women have made, and this is concerning because these women have a platform for publishing books or speaking to thousands of women. This is the false Jesus they urge women to fall down before.
Jesus is not our prom date. He is the creator, sustainer and destroyer of worlds. (Genesis 1:26, Colossians 1:17, 2 Peter 3;10). He decided to create man for a relationship with Him, so that man may know Him and glorify Him. (Psalm 86).
Jesus is not our boyfriend.
Jesus did not accomplish redemption to marry us individually. He died for the church corporate, of which we are a part. His death accomplished something much greater than simply meeting our deep-seated desires for a significant other.
There seems to be a theologically faulty trend in the church today amongst single (and many married) women that the greatest love of all is being married to Jesus (God). They have taken the whole Jesus as bridegroom and God as husband metaphor to the extreme—to imply things that one doesn’t find in the Bible.