Posted in church life, marriage, ministry, single ladies, singleness

Joy in singleness, though you’d never know it by Christian social media or church life. Part 1

 Joy in Singleness, part 2: Gifted to live singly for Jesus
Joy in Singleness, part 3: Famous biblical singles
Joyful in Singleness part 4 conclusion: Personal Note and Opinion

I am currently reading through and studying 1 Corinthians. In 1 Corinthians 7, Paul outlines responsibilities of life to marrieds & singles, and mentioning young men, virgins, and widows. It is a great chapter. Paul is specific, loving, and clear, focusing on marriage, lust, and conjugal duty.

Marriage is the foundation block of society, procreation is strongly urged, (Genesis 1:28, Genesis 9:7, Psalm 128:3, Proverbs 31:27), and divorce is considered a violent act, (Luke 16:18; 1 Corinthians 7:15; Matthew 5:32; Matthew 19:6,8; Genesis 2:24). As a matter of fact, unauthorized divorce prohibits men from serving in leadership capacity, (1 Timothy 3:2) so it is no wonder that churches spend a good deal of time preaching to and discipling marrieds. There are many marriage retreats, books, Sunday School curricula, and sermons given over to the subject. This is a good thing.

Marriage, the Bible tells us from the beginning of the Book of Genesis, is a divine institution. That is, it is something established by God. It is a covenant that is given by God and for that reason it is traceable to him. It has also been consecrated by him, for he has blessed the marriage relationship. And, of course, it’s the means of the preservation of the human race. ~S. Lewis Johnson, Marriage Counsel, part 1

 However oftentimes so much attention is given to married couples and their issues, that an overly myopic focus descends upon any given church that leaves the other half of the population out. There are young unmarried men and women, honorably divorced folks, and widows and widowers. Because of the excessive focus on marriage and married Christians’ concerns, one would be led to believe the entire church was composed of couples. But it is not so.

Census data from 1970 show that 70 percent of American households contained a married couple. The 2006 report from the Census Bureau disclosed that fewer than half of American households are now maintained by married couples. Eye on Unmarried America

In this series I’ll focus on singleness, its joys, benefits, church life, and ministry and civic opportunities. There are several kinds of singles: singles who are frustrated in the waiting for what they know will be God’s gift of marriage to them, or who have had that gift and are now widows or widowers and are grieving the loss. Some in today’s world are temporarily single also by the fact that their spouse is serving overseas, working far away, or are incarcerated. (Yes it happens). For these singles, a different kind of ministry is needed. Many of these people desire comfort and love and support as they yearningly await a change in their marital status.

Those aren’t the singles I am discussing. I’ll address the fact that even if some singles are acknowledged and gasp! ministered to, not all singles are in a waiting room for marriage. Some, like me, know they will be single forever, and are happy with that gift. Yes, gift. Rarely is the gift of singleness discussed in the church, or even preached about, looked upon as an enhancement to the Body, let alone acknowledged as a normal segment of the family He is creating.

Churches are so committed to the idea of a family-centered church that they’re just not sure how to handle rising rates of singleness. “Are Single People the Lepers of Today?

Further, I’ll reject the subtle cloud that usually attaches to a discussion of singles: depression, sadness, longing. There are singles out there which God has granted a life of joy and fulfillment, with nary a search for the soul mate in sight but only having eyes for the Groom.

For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let the one who is able to receive this receive it. (Matthew 19:11)


 Joy in Singleness, part 2: Gifted to live singly for Jesus
Joy in Singleness, part 3: Famous biblical singles
Joyful in Singleness part 4 conclusion: Personal Note and Opinion

Posted in end time, little girls, prophecy, single ladies

Sexualizing the young: the ‘Single Ladies’ little girls dancing controversy

These girls are seven years old. They are wearing small bikinis, socks made to look like dominatrix boots, netted elbow-length gloves, and are shaking their bodies in mimicry of sex moves. They are seven years old. This is insane.

It was for the World of Dance Competition in Pomona, California and there’s no doubt they are good dancers. There’s also no doubt that getting dressed up and made up and danced up like hookers is atrocious. It is child pornography. When the video hit the news stream 12 hours ago prior to going to work, I flagged it immediately and took a screen shot, getting the piece ready for when I came home tonight to publish. Since then, the YouTube video has gotten 2 million hits. That is creepily disturbing.

This is worse than bad. The first issue with this is the fact that we are sexualizing the young, and that is something to which Jesus takes huge issue. He thought highly of children–

“And they were bringing children to Him so that He might touch them; but the disciples rebuked them. But when Jesus saw this, He was indignant and said to them, “Permit the children to come to Me; do not hinder them; for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.” (Mark 10:13-14) He thought so highly of children that “He said to His disciples, “It is inevitable that stumbling blocks come, but woe to him through whom they come! “It would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck and he were thrown into the sea, than that he would cause one of these little ones to stumble.” (Luke 17:1-2)

The second issue is that He thinks highly of sex, but within adult, two-gender marriages only. He discusses the importance of marriage and having godly offspring in Malachi 2:13-14. To desecrate a little one by perverting them through sex for a dancing award is definitely not Godly.

The main issue is the morality slide. Every time a benchmark line is crossed, non-believers say that there can be no absolute morality, but that the downward slide will certainly stop before it gets too bad. Right?

Wrong. Man’s craven and fallen state means that he is led by satan and satan lives to destroy. His perverted depth knows no bottom. We will slide further and further down until … Well, take the bikini for an example.

When the bikini was invented in 1946 it was named after Bikini Atoll, a Pacific Island which was the site of nuclear tests by the US. The bikini was said to be as explosive as a nuclear device. Even over a decade later, by 1960, the bikini was still considered too risque for mainstream wear, as described in the hit song “Itsy Bitsy Teenie Weenie Yellow Polka Dot Bikini.” It told the story of a shy girl wearing a revealing polka dot bikini bathing suit at the beach, who in the first verse is too afraid to leave the locker where she has changed into the aforementioned swimwear; in the second, she has made it to the beach but sits on the sand wrapped in a blanket; and in the closing verse, she has finally gone into the ocean, but is too afraid to come out, and stays immersed in the water – despite the fact that she’s “turning blue”, to quote the song’s lyrics – to hide herself from view.”

It was only thirty years after the shy gal wearing the bikini wouldn’t come out of the water that a young woman flashed her thong to a President. A thong is a garment worn as either underwear or a bathing suit where the back consists only of an elastic string. So over time we’ve gone from this:

to this:

to this:

tho this:

It doesn’t look like anything is halting the slide yet, do you? Aw, but that is adults, you say, I thought you were talking about children. Well, I don’t see anything stopping the morality slide in using and abusing and sexualizing children, do you? We are promoting them in ever sexual ways. Immorality in adults means we are teaching immorality to children.

I wrote about it in 2009 here, regarding “Toddlers and Tiaras” television show, a behind-the-scenes look at child beauty pageants. Can you imagine, that in this day and age, we have NAMBLA, the North American Man-Boy love Association. Wikipedia explains it here but it’s in actuality an organized front for criminal and sexual exploitation of children. We have Sex tourism as a very lucrative industry that spans the globe. In 1998, the International Labour Organization reported its calculations that 2-14% of the gross domestic product of Indonesia, Malaysia, the Phillippines, and Thailand derives from sex tourism. And those statistics are ten years old. Lest you think that sex trafficking is a Third World problem only, in the United States, new research indicates that the sex-trafficking problem is more widespread and more severe than previously thought. It is estimated that 100,000 and 300,000 American children are trafficked within the U.S. each year.

The last thing this country needs are seven year old children dressed as dominatrices, prancing on stage to sex moves against lyrics that spew —

Cuz if you liked it then you should have put a ring on it
If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it
Don’t be mad once you see that he want it
If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it
I got gloss on my lips, a man on my hips
hold me tighter than my Dereon jeans
acting up, drink in my cup
I couldn’t care less what you think
I need no permission, did I mention
Don’t pay him any attention
Cuz you had your turn

Sex trafficking comes in all shades, and the world should be ashamed at exploiting children. They are a gift from God! Children glorify God! For such as these is the kingdom of heaven made!!!!!!!!!

Unless the world clings to the absolute morality of the bible, the downward slide will result in dancing child porn and 2 million hits. It will not stop there. Where it will fall from here I shudder to think. O, Jesus come soon, save the children!