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Elyse Fitzpatrick on Mary’s supposed romancing Jesus (Updated)

Editor Note: It seems that the page in question from Mrs Fitzpatrick has disappeared. Below at the bottom, I posted a link to the cached version. I also posted screen shots of the essay.


Jesus knew what she was doing and he welcomed it.

The above is from Elyse Fitzpatrick and I’ll get to the problem in her essay further down.

Elyse Fitzpatrick holds a certificate in biblical counseling from CCEF (San Diego) and an M.A. in Biblical Counseling from Trinity Theological Seminary. She has authored 23 books on daily living and the Christian life. She also has a website where she blogs and is a conference speaker.

Fitzpatrick wrote a blog essay the other week titled Mary’s Wedding Vows (page deleted, screenshots below) where a biblical scene of humbly offering an anointing to the Sovereign God preceding His death, is twisted to an impetuous moment of a love-struck girl hurling herself with abandon at her lover. In order to make the verses she quoted fit her unbiblical scene, Fitzpatrick had to twist the scripture. (2 Peter 3:16). It was a theological train wreck full of doctrinal error and crass sensuality.

Sadly, a few years ago Fitzpatrick became involved in the hypergrace movement. Her 2012 book Give Them Grace seemed to reveal more antinomian stances. She was spoken of negatively in this 2015 article at Grace to You and this one in 2015. Her theological trajectory has been noted and warned against.

The invasion of such sensual imagery by these influential writers is a sad event. One would hope and pray that Christian women would have more sense and more spiritual maturity and discernment than to chase after things that are not much different than Tantric Buddhism. Anything that connects the divine through the body should be a no-go zone. The faith comes by hearing, not by sensuous feeling. It is an intellectual faith that comes in through the mind. What we know is most important.

Baker’s Evangelical Dictionary explains the word know

Know, Knowledge
To know is not to be intellectually informed about some abstract principle, but to apprehend and experience reality. Knowledge is not the possession of information, but rather its exercise or actualization.

I sadly cannot recommend Elyse Fitzpatrick to you and must sadly issue a warning against using her materials. This is doubly sad because of her long experience with Biblical Counseling. But anyone who sees Jesus in such a light is seeing a Jesus that does not exist, except perhaps in her own mind.

See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ. (Colossians 2:8)

Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on the sons of disobedience. (Ephesians 5:6).

Screen shots of Mrs Fitzpatrick’s essay in question

elyse final


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5 thoughts on “Elyse Fitzpatrick on Mary’s supposed romancing Jesus (Updated)

  1. Great article! Good response to the Eros religion so popular today. It seems like it’s part of the way our culture is, but, in reality, the world has always been this way.


  2. Thank you for this, I know it’s not always easy or popular to warn others! but what your doing is right and very helpful. like me at one time, not everyone can see that “Mary’s wedding vows” and the other writings listed are extreme and unnecessary “trifling and pressing of the word of God to suit the flesh” But the scripture clearly reveals Jesus was her Lord not her lover, as this kind of writing always suggest! Gods word unblemished is what we need, to confront, to humble and to make Jesus our Lord which will only ever be our true comfort, and give us the right biblical perspective to discern this kind of error. I once ascribed to and participated in this sort of Eros religion (a good description!) along with the other unbiblical teaching and aspects of the NAR. But God is good, and he disciplines those who he loves! Over a period of time he allowed me to be brought low into all of the demonic consequences of wrong worship and then he opened my heart to his truth! It’s ironic now, but a quote I once defended as truth and admired, now helps me to understand the error itself. When speaking of amorous and sensual expressions of worship, the mystic Thomas Aquinas once said that “There is no Lord between Lovers” how true that is, but he revealed (unintentionally) an attitude that (however covertly) puts man in a relational position with God as equals, which is the lie of all lies with devastating consequences! I pray God will use this article for his glory , and to cause any person who might have come here in defense (as I once would!) to see the truth. God Bless!


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